August 18, 2008

maya's tale part two

until i received a phone call on august 19.  it was about 10am and i was in bed with a horrible headache.  i was doing daycare at the time and we were all supposed to have gone and met my friend and her son at the bean museum.  i called earlier and told her i couldn't go and had just gone back to bed.  mady and the little girls were watching tv and running around.  the phone rang and while i usually would have just let it ring i answered it.  
"mrs. welcker?" said the voice on the other end, "this is jenny from dcfs  and we have a brand new baby girl that we need to place in a home that is willing to adopt." gasp. "would you be able to be down to utah valley hospital by 2pm to pick her up?" are you kidding? who, what, how?  "the mother has severe mental problems and is currently in state custody and cannot take care of the baby. it's looking pretty promising that this will be an adoption but we can't give you any guarantees. would you be willing to take her?"  yes...let me call my husband and make sure.  "call me right back."
 i called dave...shock & awe.  luckily he was working a short day and was already on his way home.  i called my little girls mom and she came and got them.  i called around and found a carseat and bassinet and ran to american fork to pick it up.  dave was home by then and we stopped at 'babies 'r us' and picked up a little outfit to bring her home in.  all this time we are both kind of in a daze...this wasn't the plan.  the possibilities of getting an infant that was brand new and a girl and already had a good chance that we would be able to keep her...slim to none in utah.  not to mention she was african american!  our oldest daughter is bi-racial and i secretly had wished that we would be able to adopt more bi-racial or african american children.  i'm a little biased with the brown skin babies.:)  i don't think that we have ever been more excited and terrified at the same time.  we had no idea what to expect or how the whole system worked.  we got to the hospital and were met by jenny, the intake worker, who took us up to the nursery.  we were waiting for her birth mom to come and say goodbye and name her.  oh we were so excited for about 15 minutes because she didn't have a name yet and it was a possibility that maybe we would be able to name her.  when her birth mom is not on her medication she is extremely belligerant and there was a really good chance that she wouldn't name her just to show them who was boss.  didn't happen.  she did name her and then we were able to see her in the nursery.  she was the biggest baby.  she weighed 9 lbs 14 oz. and because of that had been stuck in her mom's birth canal for i don't know how long.  i know that the labor was long and hard. both sides of her head were bruised because of the forceps and they  had left a ridge on each side.  her face was so swollen that her eyes were just little slits.  but she had chocolate brown skin and beautiful soft wavy black hair.  i tell you what it was love at first sight.  i remember sitting in the lobby talking to jenny with this little baby in a baby carrier and we got to take her home.  it's all like a big dream.  i was so nervous and excited.  we got home and my sister ginny and her girls were waiting on the porch for us.  then family started to show up.  my little niece, haley, brought me all kinds of clothes & shampoo and all of that stuff you need.  i had nothing here.  it had been 11 years since we had a baby.  they give you a little bag from dcfs with a few diapers and maybe some formula and a bottle and that was it.  thank goodness for haley!  we got so much love and support that night.  it was incredible.  
after everyone was gone and dave and mady were in bed it was my time with the little one.  i sat up all night holding her and looking at her and singing to her.  i fell head over heels in love that night.  i almost wish that i hadn't....

5 comments:

Mindy said...

Marci, this is a mean mean game to play with us! I am dying to know the whole story... ALL AT ONCE!!! ;)

Marci said...

i know, it's so fun!!!! tune in tomorrow....

Adam and Kristina said...

I love little brown babies too! Can't wait for the rest of the story!

The Tolman Family said...

I am glad that I know the story, but I love to hear it again. I am also glad that I had the chance to take care of her for that summer you were working. I will always have special place in my heart for her.

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V and Co. said...

hey i never got to tell you about the label cloud, i just googled it "label cloud" and then i got the step by step instructions from there! i hope that helps

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